Your energy talks! Here's how to make it sing...

It’s true about our energy – it really does speak louder than words. How do I know this? Because when I’m walking around town and my energy is light and joyful, tons of people smile at me and say “hi.”

And it’s not because I have smiled or said “hi” first. They are the ones who initiate the friendly cheer. My words and behavior do not prompt their warm greetings – my good energy does. It’s like they can feel me coming.

Here’s another thing about my “good energy” days: I sing better. I am the ultimate car performer. Even the most notorious of divas – Beyoncé, Bette Midler, Celine Dion – have to share the limelight with me when I’m behind the wheel.

When my energy is high, my voice booms out effortlessly because it’s coming from somewhere deep inside me. When I’m feeling frazzled, anxious, or negative, I still sing along. But it sounds strained because it’s only coming from my throat.

Once we understand how our energy operates, everything in life can change: work meetings, relationships, freeway driving, trips to the grocery store, text messaging. Everything goes better when it comes from the heart.

The first step is becoming aware of the energy we’re putting out. This is not tough to do. How do we feel inside – light or heavy? How are other people responding to us? What are their eyes, facial expressions, and vocal tones telling us about the vibes we’re sending out?

If you don’t like what you see in the energetic mirror, no need to get down on yourself. It happens to the best of us.

The good news is that we can shift our energy at will. Want to try it? Here are some tips:

1.      Remember the Sound of Music. Think of “a few of your favorite things.” In lovingkindness meditations, we bring to mind someone we love dearly, like a child, a partner, or a pet. Hold that person in your mind for 20 seconds. Now how do you feel?

2.      Breathe deeply. According to Gabrielle Bernstein, mindful breathing resets our energy. If a conversation isn’t going well, inhale slowly for 10 seconds, and then exhale for 10 seconds. Deep breathing resets our energy, getting that convo back in a good place.

3.      Get real. Gabby B. also reminds us that when we are authentic, our good energy and positivity shine through naturally. Before every important event, try saying this silently: “Thank you, Universe (or God), for helping me align with my authentic truth.”

4.      Think “Namaste.” Yes, it is sadly overused today. But the meaning is beautiful: “The light in me salutes the light in you.” Deepak Chopra suggests thinking namaste whenever we greet someone. They’ll feel it at the energetic level, and the encounter will go well.

5.      Wish someone well. Got this one from Mike Dooley. He used to curse at people who drove recklessly on the freeway. Then he changed his internal response to: “Be careful, my brother (or sister). I love you.” Good energy makes for good driving.

If you try out any of these tips, I’d love to hear about it in the comments section below!


Thank you for reading, dear friends.

Namaste. (Hope you felt that on an energetic level!)


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